Lessons I’ve Learned From Being a Part of a Mom’s Facebook Group: Brought to you by a Mom Who Has Been Kicked Out

I LOVE my Facebook groups and pages.  It is the way to advertise your business, blog, or even just meet new moms when you move to the area.  That is why I originally joined.  I was a part of a local mom’s group to meet and hopefully become friends with other local moms who didn’t know anyone, like myself.

I then decided to start my blog and it was a great way to advertise it at first.  My blog is not a money maker for me.  My blog is my passion and allows me to vent and let other mothers know that they are not alone!!  I was “attacked” by another mom who had an issue with my posts about my blog and who couldn’t seem to just scroll past when something bothered her.  I left and went to the “other side” that promised that the grass was greener!!!

I haven’t had many issues with the newest Facebook group though I did have a couple with moms that decided they needed to post their rude comments.  I don’t put up with the rude and would respond to them.

Well everything changed this morning.  I have been posting my blog there for over a year.  I recently started a local subscription box for locally made products and I have been advertising on the group which is allowed…. until this morning.

I got a message from the admin of the group telling me that she has had lots of complaints about me and my posting about the Beyoutiful Box so I of course, asked her what the problem was.  So she goes on to tell me that I never picked up a certain product and didn’t pay for the product that was suppose to go in the box so that business owner decided that it was the business of an admin of a Facebook group that she didn’t like my posts.

Well to find out, the whole story wasn’t told so I gave her my side of the story as well so she had the full story.  I then decided to message the business owner and tell them what I felt and that my time and money was just as important as theirs.  However no one else seems to think that since I was then blocked for sending messages to the admin of the group and I was kicked out of the group completely!!!

So today, I have decided to share some things that I have learned about being part of a Mom’s Facebook group.

LESSONS FROM A FACEBOOK MOM’S GROUP:

They have more cliques than high school.   Maybe I was just super lucky at the school I went to.  Maybe I was naive and didn’t notice the cliques that existed.  However, I don’t remember being a part of a certain group in high school.  We all got along with everyone.  We weren’t best friends with everyone and sometimes it was a hi or how are you doing every now and then but it was never a clique.  These groups don’t function like that!  People know each other and stick together.  Coming into a group like that is difficult.  If 1 person doesn’t like you or approve of you then you are out of luck with those ladies.  No, of course, they are not all like that.  I have met some amazing woman through the Facebook group.  Just don’t mess with the wrong person or you will get kicked out of the group like me!!!

There is only 1 side to every story.  Contrary to what we are all taught growing up, online is a completely different world.  There  is only 1 side to every story especially if you messed with that 1 person that was in the clique.  You automatically assume that what that one person says must be true and instead of saying something to the other party nicely, you confront them because you can hide behind your computer.

Women show you what they want you to think their life is like.  I believe that being true to yourself and showcasing your flaws is so refreshing.  That doesn’t happen in mom’s groups.  Everyone complains about other mom’s parenting.  Other moms show you the pictures where their make up is perfect, their stomachs are sucked in, and their hair is done like it was just finished at the salon.  They don’t have flaws as a parent but how dare the other mom decide to parent her children like that.  Look at my beautiful and spotless house.  (All while the rest of us shake our heads and assume because we have toys strewn all over the floor that we are somehow less of a mother!)  Their online world can be completely what they want it to be.  Show you only what they want to show you (when it looks perfect!).

Women say 1 thing but mean something completely different.  No matter how many times some women tell you that they support you, they don’t.  They don’t want to watch you succeed.  They want to succeed and leave everyone wishing that they were them.  Being online allows you to say anything.  You can’t read a person.  You don’t know what their true intentions are until you meet them in person.  I have met a couple of these women in person and it makes me sad.  Women should be standing up and helping each other.  Not trying to push each other down and set on each other’s backs to take the success from them.

Women are competitive even when they say they aren’t.  No matter what aspect of your life, women are competitive with each other.  Wanting to be better than their neighbor, have the bigger house, have the bigger paycheck, have the perfect family, and have the best body.  Life isn’t about competing with each other.  Life is about support and showing other women that no matter what, you have their back just because they are a woman!!

 

Now remember I have said that I have met some amazing and real friends from the Facebook group so not all of these refer to everyone in the groups!!

I don’t expect every woman on this world to get along because that just isn’t going to happen.  However respect is much different than being friends.  I respect the other business owner.  I understand that she worked hard and put lots of time in but so did I.  For her to think that her time is more important or worth more than mine isn’t fair.  That was the point I was trying to make when I was unfairly blocked.

My life will go on!!  I will succeed with my business without the help of that Facebook group.  I don’t need those negative women to rain on my success.  I am great and I will be okay!!!  I will succeed!!!  You just watch me!!!!!

Local Subscription Box Giveaway

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Today was delivery day for the local subscription boxes that I started planning a month and a half ago.  It was a very exciting weekend!!!!  I had 9 boxes in total ordered.  My goal was 10 so I think I did pretty great!!!

I live in a wonderful community that is so willing to support local businesses yet we never seem to know what all those businesses have to offer.  That is why I started this box.  Supporting local means supporting a small family especially in this economy!!

I am excited that I am able to give one of these boxes away to one of my lucky local readers!!!  The shirt size inside the box is XL.

Now to enter the contest, I need you to like my Facebook page and follow me on Instagram. My links are below to make it a bit easier for you!!!!

Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/Beyoutiful-Rewritten-657389431027040/timeline?ref=page_internal

Instagram profile:

https://www.instagram.com/beyoutiful_rewritten/

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I will be picking a winner on Friday May 6th @ 11am.  I am excited to give this amazing gift away.  The shirt and journal may be different than what is pictured above as each box had their own individual styles.

If you want to purchase a local subscription box for delivery on July 2nd, I will be releasing details either later tonight or tomorrow!  The Facebook link is below for details on the new box.  I will be updating them soon!!

https://www.facebook.com/Beyoutiful-Box-860912164036214/

 

Boy or Girl? What is Baby Laycock #3?

I am so excited to finally be making this announcement.  I have known for a few weeks but have been waiting for a couple local ladies to help make some items for the amazing announcement I am about to make.

I want to give them a shout out first as they have both done amazing work and couldn’t be happier.

Amanda Metherall from Wee Three Creations in Carstairs.  She worked with me for exactly what I wanted and it was even better than I imagined.  I am so excited for the kids and baby to wear there shirts home from the hospital!!  Her Facebook page is below and I highly recommend contacting her!!!  (She will also be in my local subscription box that is being delivered on May 1st!!!)

https://www.facebook.com/Wee-Three-Creations-614153738608902/timeline?ref=page_internal

The 2nd lady is from Airdrie and owns Mini Me Babies!!  She was quick and had fast service!!  I love the pants that she made me for the photo and for the coming home from hospital outfit!!!  I have left her Facebook page link below!!!  Again, I highly recommend contacting her for great, unique, and locally made baby items!!

https://www.facebook.com/Likklewone/timeline?ref=page_internal

Now the moment you have all been waiting for!!!!  What is baby Laycock #3??  I am so excited to share this!!  I had a feeling that this is what we were going to have!!!!

Was it what you guessed it was?  I would love to hear some name suggestions as well!!  We have a huge list compiled but can’t seem to agree on anything!!!!!  Well here it is……

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Baby Laycock #3 is a GIRL!!!  The look on Q’s face says it all!!!  He was so hoping for a brother and now has come to the realization that he has to play prince for 2 little girls instead of 1.

Annie is excited just to be a big sister.  She is already worrying that she may not be a good sister.  I told her she will make a great sister.

Richard will now have 2 little girls with him wrapped around their fingers.  He was also hoping for a little boy but is happy that the baby is healthy and growing.  That is all we can really ask for as parents!!!!

Below is a picture of the pants that were made by Mini Me Babies since you can’t see them the greatest in the picture!!!!  I absolutely LOVE them and am now so excited to bring this baby into the world!!!

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Now if you have any name suggestions I would love to hear them!!!  We are looking for unique and pretty names.  I have a huge list but we can’t seem to agree on any!!!!!  What was your guess?  Boy or Girl??

The Reality of Kid Free Nights

The thing is…. they always start off with such high hopes.  Most of us don’t get many nights kid free so when we finally do, we think, yes I am going to get laid tonight!!  (Come on ladies, I know I am not the only one!!!)

I am super excited for Friday April 15th.  Richard and I are having a date night to celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary. To make it even better, my friend has offered to watch the kids for the night!!!  Now my game plan is on!!

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First comes all the prep work.  Shaving, doing hair, make up, dressing nice.  Making sure you look like you did when you were dating.  Or at least as close to it as you can.  My pregnant belly really doesn’t allow for me to look like I did while we were dating.

The week is going to built up with excitement.  It truly isn’t often that we get a date night, let alone a whole entire night kid free.  We are going to dinner, movies, and then back home.  I must say, I am most looking forward to dinner.  A delicious steak that I can enjoy without having kids to keep occupied while I eat.  Let’s face it, I am not the world’s fastest eater.  We can have adult conversation without being interrupted by little voices.  (I really do LOVE my children with all of my heart but it is always nice to get a night away to refresh!)

Who knows what movie we will go to but all through dinner there will be that build up of flirting, drinking (on my husband’s part), touching, and just romance.  Looking forward to what the night will bring.

Once the movie is over we will head home.  Conversation in the car will of course be how the movie went and if the kids are behaving themselves and doing okay without us.  (Of course they are, they could care less if we were there!)  The build up will continue with some more flirting.

By the time we get home, cleaned up (my make up off), and jump into bed to turn on another movie from Netflix, Richard will probably already be snoring.  Which means the night of passion that I had dreamed about all week long, will slowly go down the drain after listening to his snoring minute after minute.

I will eventually curl up and fall asleep beside my snoring husband dreaming about the night that could of been.  However, at least I will get a night where my 2 children outside of my body will not awake me.  Hopefully on this night, baby Laycock #3 will cooperate and allow me to sleep without having to get up to pee a thousand times or toss and turn trying to get comfortable.

The kid free night always starts off with such promise and then slowly fades away into a dream!!!

How was your kid free night???

Art of Food: Healthier Raspberry Almond Muffins

Yesterday I shared 2 wonderful snacks that you can make for yourself or your children.  They both took under 5 minutes to make and have less processed ingredients than the store bought versions.  Today, I am going to share with you another recipe that I made over the weekend that was another huge hit in my household.

We love muffins.  They are a great snack and are easy to make.  Great for lunches, breakfast, or even as a snack.  The recipe I am sharing with you today is not school friendly because it does contain nuts.  However, I have been serving them as breakfast to my son with lactose free yogurt and some fruit on the side.  Great way to start the morning.  Plus these muffins already have fresh raspberries in them!!!

Without making you wait any longer since I can see the drool dripping down your chin, here is the recipe!  Recipe is from Lovely Little Kitchen.

RASPBERRY ALMOND MUFFINS

1 CUP RASPBERRIES

1 EGG

1 1/2 CUPS FLOUR

1/2 TEASPOON ALMOND EXTRACT

1/2 TEASPOON BAKING POWDER

1/4 TEASPOON BAKING SODA

1/4 TEASPOON SALT

3/4 CUP SUGAR

1/2 CUP COCONUT OIL

1/2 CUP PLAIN GREEK YOGURT

1/2 CUP WHOLE MILK (I used 1% as that is what we drink at home)

Preheat oven to 400 F. Mix the coconut oil and sugar in a bowl until creamy with a spatula.  Add egg and mix until smooth.

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Add in the Greek yogurt, milk, and almond extract. I used a hand mixer from this point on to get it nice and creamy.

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In another bowl, mix together flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt.  Add it to the dry ingredients and mix until blended.

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Fold in the raspberries using a spatula.  It’s ok if the raspberries break up a bit.  I know mine did when I folded them in gently.

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In a muffin tin, scoop the batter into each muffin well.  Bake for 3 minutes at 400 F and turn down the oven to 350 F to bake for another 17-19 minutes.  Muffins will be done when a toothpick inserted into the middle will come out clean.

Let the muffins cool for a few minutes and then remove them and let them cool further on a wire rack.

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Let me know how these muffins taste.  My son has already eaten 3 of them since yesterday afternoon.  He is loving them.  I would love to know what your family thinks of them.

Art of Food: Snack Time

I am finding that with sending my son to school with a lunch everyday, he is getting a lot of processed foods.  Granola bars, fruit snacks, bear paws, the list goes on and on.

For the month of April, I am doing a no spend month.  My goal for the no spend month is to stick to a meal plan and budget of $250 for groceries per week.  With a family of 4, that isn’t always easy.  Plus I am pregnant and will be starting to eat more.  Not only do I want to stick to a meal plan, I am trying to cut out some processed foods from our diet.  I know that I won’t get rid of everything processed but this is a start.

Today I am going to share with you 2 recipes that I made over the weekend that my kids are just going crazy over.  They were both so easy that I can’t believe I waited so long to try them.  Plus it cuts out 2 processed lunch items that my son loves to carry in his lunch kit.

The first recipe I am going to share with you is for no bake granola bars.  A huge hit in our house.  Granola bars are easy and quick to pick up and eat.  Here is the recipe that I used.  I even made it school friendly!!

HOMEMADE GRANOLA BARS

2 CUPS QUICK COOKING OATS

1 CUP APPLE BUTTER

1/4 CUP HONEY

CHOCOLATE CHIPS

CINNAMON

Pour the 2 cups of oats into a mixing bowl.  Add in the apple butter and honey and mix together.  Once all the oats are coated, add in what you would like to have in your granola bars.  I only had chocolate chips in my house so I added chocolate chips and cinnamon.  Then mix together.

Once all of the ingredients are combined, get an 8×8 baking dish.  I used glass.  Dump the mixture into the baking dish and press into the pan evenly.  Put into the freezer for at least 45 minutes.

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Once the 45 minutes are up, cut them up and wrap them individually in plastic wrap.  Place the wrapped granola bars in a freezer bag and they can stay in the freezer.  Grab one out anytime you want to eat one.

The whole process of gathering the ingredients, measuring, mixing, and dumping in the glass dish took 5 minutes.  Easiest recipe ever and my kids loved them.

You can use anything besides apple butter. Peanut butter, school safe peanut butter, almond butter, or any other type of nut butter.  I used apple butter so my son could take them to school.

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Now the next super easy recipe is for homemade fruit snacks.  Again this recipe took me less than 5 minutes to make and 20 minutes to set in the freezer.  That’s it!!  Super easy and again my kids are loving the results!

HOMEMADE FRUIT SNACKS

1 PACKAGE JELLO

5 TEASPOONS UNFLAVORED GELATIN (OR 2 PACKAGES)

1/3 CUP WATER

Pour the water into a pot and put over medium heat.  Sprinkle both gelatins over the water and stir until everything is dissolved.  Pour the mixture into a mould of some kind. I used a mini cupcake pan.  You can also use an ice cube tray.

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Once the mixture is poured into the mould, put it into the freezer for 20 minutes to allow to set.  They easily peel out of the mould and store them in a plastic container and keep them in the fridge.

That’s it.  The recipe is that simple.  I will never be buying granola bars or fruit snacks again.  I bought the unflavored gelatin from Bulk Barn.  They also have a ton of different flavors of jello powder that will allow you to make different flavors of fruit snacks!

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I would love to hear how your children loved these easy lunch time snacks.

Our First Night

With my 10 year wedding anniversary coming up in April,  I keep thinking about memories that we have had. Plus my pregnancy hormones are making me feel all gushy inside!

I thought I would talk about the first time we met in person and our first night together. (Since they are both the same night!!)

Richard and I met online in March of 2005. I was not looking for a relationship as my online profile stated I was looking for someone to show me around the new town I lived in. I then get a response from a guy named Richard that said, “I don’t know where you live but here is my $. Call me!” I waited a day or 2 and no one else responded so I thought what the hell. I called him.

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That first night we talked for 3-4 hours. I found out he lived in Ontario,  Canada and I lived in Wisconsin, U.S. That however didn’t stop the feeling that I had the moment we started talking. It probably sounds cliché but I knew from that first phone call we were gonna get married.

We spoke on the phone everyday from March until June when I decided to finally venture up to the Great North!!  I decided not to tell my parents as I was going since I knew what they were going to say.  I did however, tell my friend the address that I would be staying at, his name, phone number, and I called every day to check in with her so she knew that I was ok.  (Safety first as I was meeting someone I met online.)

The drive to Canada was suppose to be 15 hours long.  I, of course, got completely lost in Michigan and the trip ended up being 18 hours.  I finally arrived in Ontario between 1 and 2 am.  I was exhausted by the time I got there.

I still can picture him walking up to my car to meet me outside.  His goofy grin on his face.  His walk that said, “I am way too cool for you.”  He kissed me on the cheek and said welcome.  We then had to drop off a car that he was using for work and we came right back to his apartment.

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Now this is the part I will never forget.  There was so much build up to this meeting.  3.5 months of talking and we were finally talking to each other in person.  When we finally got back to his house, it was super late and we were both ready for bed.  He walked me to his bedroom.  He stripped down completely naked and jumped into bed.  (Of course I expected something to happen.  I was going to be there for 2 weeks after all.)  I asked him what he was doing and he said he was ready for bed.

This is where I decided to pull out a long sleeve shirt, long pants, and I proceeded to jump into bed next to him.  The look on his face was priceless when he asked me what I was doing.  My response was, “you didn’t expect not to work for it right. It’s late and I am going to sleep.”   I leaned over and kissed him on the lips and went to sleep.

That was our first night together.  Nothing romantic.  The rest of my 2 week trip was amazing and I didn’t want to leave.  He was my soulmate and I was sad to have to leave him to go back to the U.S.

What was the first night like spent with your significant other?  Magical?  Funny?  I would love to hear stories!

 

Art of Food: Avocado Muffins

I have been meaning to share this recipe with you for over a week now.  I have been so incredibly busy that I keep on forgetting so I am doing it now so I do not forget in 5 minutes.  Baby brain, stuck with it for life!!!

Before I have spinach muffins and my kids gobbled them up.  Like most moms, I also try to hide good stuff into food.  I am lucky because my kids aren’t picky eaters and they do like there vegetables.  (Only raw though!)

These avocado muffins are basically the same as the spinach muffins except instead of spinach add avocado.  They weren’t as bright green as the spinach but they were still a pretty green in color.  I will make you wait no longer!!

INGREDIENTS

1 ripe avocado

1 banana (I suggest using 2)

2 cups flour (I used white because that is what I had in my house.  Next time I will be trying coconut flour.)

3/4 cup sugar

1 teaspoon baking soda

1/2 cup milk  (I used 1%.  Next time I am going to try almond milk)

2 eggs

Cinnamon (I never measure.)

Vanilla (Again I never measure.)

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In a bowl, mix together the avocado and banana.  I used beaters to get them mixed together really well.  Next add in the eggs and milk.  Add in some cinnamon and vanilla.  Mix those together really well.

Next add the sugar, baking soda, and flour. Mix together well.

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Bake at 350 F for between 15-20 minutes.  Take them out of the oven and serve warm.  They were super yummy served warm.  My kids gobbled them up!!!  They had noidea there was even avocado in there.

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I would love to hear how these went over with your children!  I will be making them again and making some changes to the recipe to see how it affects the flavors.

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New Haircut

I finally took the step and got my hair cut from the 4 that my readers chose from. I was excited because it was the haircut that I liked. I was nervous because I was cutting a lot of hair off. Plus Richard has NO idea that I did it!!

I was at the point where I just needed a change. I love my hair long but I was feeling frumpy. I don’t have the energy to get up and do my hair for 30 minutes. I have a hard enough time making it through a shower these days without needing to take a break!

So here it is. My before photo….

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And here is the new and improved me in my after photo…

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And here is a side by side comparison.  Tell me what you think! I love it and am hoping I can get it to look like this every day!

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Art of Food: Taco Southwest Salad

It has been way too long since I have done an Art of Food post. Doesn’t help that food lately has been an enemy. However, I still need to eat so time to start having fun in the kitchen again.

I have been craving a salad for a little while so I decided to take it up a step. I am a lover of Pinterest and I have a whole board dedicated to salads. I never follow a recipe. I find them more for guidance than anything else.

Last night was no different. Without making you wait any longer, here are the ingredients and instructions.

INGREDIENTS

Chicken breast (I used 3)

Taco seasoning

Butter

Peppers (any color. I like red, orange, and yellow)

Grape tomatoes

Avocado

Corn

Lima beans

Green onions

Black beans

Cheese

Romaine lettuce

Cover the raw chicken breasts in taco seasoning. Put a couple dabs of butter in a pan and melt it. I did it over high heat to get the taco seasoning crispy. Place the chicken breasts in the melted butter and let them cook. Take them out and cut them up and place them back into the pan to finish cooking.

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While the chicken is finishing, cut up all the veggies. I placed the corn and Lima beans on a baking sheets with some butter and pepper and roast them. They took about 10 mins.

I put all my veggies on a plate and it was build your own salad night. I also cut up carrots and cucumbers because that’s what kids like in their salads.

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I served the salad with Chipotle Ceasar dressing.  (Which was amazing!) I also warmed up Naan bread to have on the side served with orange juice and water.

It was a super easy and family friendly meal that filled even my husband up. Irecommend trying this salad and playing with flavors. Great way to have fun in the kitchen and introduce your kids to how yummy salads can be!! Tell me how your family likes it.

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