I LOVE my Facebook groups and pages. It is the way to advertise your business, blog, or even just meet new moms when you move to the area. That is why I originally joined. I was a part of a local mom’s group to meet and hopefully become friends with other local moms who didn’t know anyone, like myself.
I then decided to start my blog and it was a great way to advertise it at first. My blog is not a money maker for me. My blog is my passion and allows me to vent and let other mothers know that they are not alone!! I was “attacked” by another mom who had an issue with my posts about my blog and who couldn’t seem to just scroll past when something bothered her. I left and went to the “other side” that promised that the grass was greener!!!
I haven’t had many issues with the newest Facebook group though I did have a couple with moms that decided they needed to post their rude comments. I don’t put up with the rude and would respond to them.
Well everything changed this morning. I have been posting my blog there for over a year. I recently started a local subscription box for locally made products and I have been advertising on the group which is allowed…. until this morning.
I got a message from the admin of the group telling me that she has had lots of complaints about me and my posting about the Beyoutiful Box so I of course, asked her what the problem was. So she goes on to tell me that I never picked up a certain product and didn’t pay for the product that was suppose to go in the box so that business owner decided that it was the business of an admin of a Facebook group that she didn’t like my posts.
Well to find out, the whole story wasn’t told so I gave her my side of the story as well so she had the full story. I then decided to message the business owner and tell them what I felt and that my time and money was just as important as theirs. However no one else seems to think that since I was then blocked for sending messages to the admin of the group and I was kicked out of the group completely!!!
So today, I have decided to share some things that I have learned about being part of a Mom’s Facebook group.
LESSONS FROM A FACEBOOK MOM’S GROUP:
They have more cliques than high school. Maybe I was just super lucky at the school I went to. Maybe I was naive and didn’t notice the cliques that existed. However, I don’t remember being a part of a certain group in high school. We all got along with everyone. We weren’t best friends with everyone and sometimes it was a hi or how are you doing every now and then but it was never a clique. These groups don’t function like that! People know each other and stick together. Coming into a group like that is difficult. If 1 person doesn’t like you or approve of you then you are out of luck with those ladies. No, of course, they are not all like that. I have met some amazing woman through the Facebook group. Just don’t mess with the wrong person or you will get kicked out of the group like me!!!
There is only 1 side to every story. Contrary to what we are all taught growing up, online is a completely different world. There is only 1 side to every story especially if you messed with that 1 person that was in the clique. You automatically assume that what that one person says must be true and instead of saying something to the other party nicely, you confront them because you can hide behind your computer.
Women show you what they want you to think their life is like. I believe that being true to yourself and showcasing your flaws is so refreshing. That doesn’t happen in mom’s groups. Everyone complains about other mom’s parenting. Other moms show you the pictures where their make up is perfect, their stomachs are sucked in, and their hair is done like it was just finished at the salon. They don’t have flaws as a parent but how dare the other mom decide to parent her children like that. Look at my beautiful and spotless house. (All while the rest of us shake our heads and assume because we have toys strewn all over the floor that we are somehow less of a mother!) Their online world can be completely what they want it to be. Show you only what they want to show you (when it looks perfect!).
Women say 1 thing but mean something completely different. No matter how many times some women tell you that they support you, they don’t. They don’t want to watch you succeed. They want to succeed and leave everyone wishing that they were them. Being online allows you to say anything. You can’t read a person. You don’t know what their true intentions are until you meet them in person. I have met a couple of these women in person and it makes me sad. Women should be standing up and helping each other. Not trying to push each other down and set on each other’s backs to take the success from them.
Women are competitive even when they say they aren’t. No matter what aspect of your life, women are competitive with each other. Wanting to be better than their neighbor, have the bigger house, have the bigger paycheck, have the perfect family, and have the best body. Life isn’t about competing with each other. Life is about support and showing other women that no matter what, you have their back just because they are a woman!!
Now remember I have said that I have met some amazing and real friends from the Facebook group so not all of these refer to everyone in the groups!!
I don’t expect every woman on this world to get along because that just isn’t going to happen. However respect is much different than being friends. I respect the other business owner. I understand that she worked hard and put lots of time in but so did I. For her to think that her time is more important or worth more than mine isn’t fair. That was the point I was trying to make when I was unfairly blocked.
My life will go on!! I will succeed with my business without the help of that Facebook group. I don’t need those negative women to rain on my success. I am great and I will be okay!!! I will succeed!!! You just watch me!!!!!